What failure taught me?
As a kid, I believed there was no wrong I could do. What I needed was to flap my wings and soar like a bird, and I could fly to anyway place I wanted. Often what happened was I fell flat on my back, but that didn’t stop me. Kids are relentless like that. What I knew was I could accomplish anything all I needed to do was believe, and I would do it.
I experienced more losses than I did successes. Time after time I failed, and I had to go back to zero. The majority of kids are good at particular things whether they are good at making objects with their hands, sports or school. I was good at neither. Sounds weird, but what I was great at as a kid was crafting imaginary worlds in my head. They always played out like movies, and I was the protagonist. I hated school and barely passed high school, I struggled with balance so sports wasn’t my thing and I didn’t have enough discipline to be good at arts and crafts.
What did they leave me with? Not enough belief in myself. I wanted to be an actor, and for the longest time, I saw that as the only profession I could be good at. I loved dressing up like most girls and would put many outfits on. That’s what I was good at, but in the minds of a lot of people, I was a failure.
So what did any of this teach me?
Failure taught me not to jump before I could crawl. I learned that it was better to start off small then big and go from there. I evolved the older I got and understood what failure meant and how I could use that to my advantage.
Success comes with a lot of failures, and it comes in different ways. Some people it’s the first rejection letter, others it’s investing too much into something and not getting enough of return. For a few, it’s the waiting game. Not having enough money, influence or the knowledge.
What I learned through years of failing and not reaching my potential is not doing something is failing. It may not seem like it, but as a kid who didn’t think I would go to university, I look at life differently. My teachers believed I wouldn’t go to college and for some time I did. That thought was rooted in me until I decided I determined who I became.
Failure is all about the perspective, if you believe it determines your success, then it will. Not trying to be all you are destined to will result in you considering you are a failure. Success begins by taking action.